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Never had neither and i got enough going on in the Anxiety whirlpool of life without adding to it ~chuckles~ but i do wonder how many looked for their phone whilst reading this and then sighed a relief only for it to be short lived seeing the wedding ring gone :)

Then again, many settle into not wearing their rings after along time- and/or got different rings since marriage, so the one we wear can be easily replaced... Whereas, lost information is a different kind of loss. That is stress, while there is no stress involved in losing jewelry.



The ring I wear today is not the one from our wedding day. So if I was able to upgrade it years after (which I did)... The thought of having to buy a new one isn't something I haven't already done. No stress involved there.

I panic when I think I've lost my phone because I don't have the money to buy a new one.

I panic when I think I've lost my promise ring(not married yet, but I think it's close enough to be compared in the situation) not necessarily because of the money but more because of it's sentimental value to me.



Some people are less sentimental than others.

but I agree- it is the wrong kind of separation anxiety. To me, this indicates our society's priorities...it's starting to become careers/jobs/money over relationships. Maybe this is why the divorce rate is so high.

I was married. I'm not now but when I was, I didn't have a diamond. I just had the band and wore it all the time. My husband never wore his.



When he got a better paying job he bought me a diamond to go with the band. I wore it all the time and only took it off to do the dishes.



We were hosting an exchange student for the year and he had friends over. I had made dinner, took my rings off to do the dishes. When I went to put the rings back on, guess what was missing? My wedding band and diamond. To this day, I have no idea who took it and I was very stressed over that. It still bothers me that someone we let come into our home took what was not theirs.



I think I am in tune with relationships, I loved my husband, he didn't love me. I honored him and our sacred union, he didn't. It took years to get over him and the feeling of loss but I'm OK now, but I am careful who I let into my house now and where my jewelry is, I'd be freaking out if I lost my rings I have now.



As for smartphones, yes I have one but I don't freak out if I misplace it, what does that say about me, hahahaha. Sometimes I'm anti-social and shut it off anyway:P

Yikes, was I the only one seeing the analogy with finding techno stuff more important than love and how 'marriage' or love is put under pressure as we concentrate on what could be considered more irrelevant things?!!

My stress is the cost of the phone- that and my contacts. Otherwise... meh all around. ;)

Obviously love is more important than technology. But this comparison is not about love and technology- it's about a symbol being lost and something that is *not* a symbol being lost. If I lose my phone, I've truly lost a bunch of things. If I lose my ring- I have *not* lost my love or my marriage.



One could argue too much importance is put on jewelry instead of actual marriage. People that married during the Depression in the US rarely had a ring- but it didn't make their marriage any less valuable or true. I bet those people would scoff at someone pining over a lost piece of jewelry as if it were akin to losing a spouse :P



However, I place sentimental value on my ring and would be upset if it were lost. Sad and stressed are not the same- very different reactions two these very different losses. Stress comes with the loss of the phone which comes with many ramifications in this modern time. I don't have a landline, and it's my only means of contact if something has happened to my family or me. And thats just one thing on a giant list. However long it takes to replace- I lose a line of communication with my family. I don't use my phone to chat it up with random friends and text like a teenager. I use it only to connect with my family- the 'smart' part of the phone I wouldn't pine over because I have a computer to do those things in the meantime.



If Psychology Today said, we're more stressed about losing our smartphones than our relationships- I'd agree that was the wrong king of separation anxiety. But in this case, our phones connect us to our relationships. My ring won't beam me to them, or call 911 in an emergency :)

edit: "If Psychology Today said, we're more stressed about losing our smartphones than our relationships- I'd agree that was the wrong kind of separation anxiety."

I was never married so yes I'd lose my head if I lost my phone :P



However I agree with images, love is not in a ring. And I agree that many people actually are giving more importance to the phone rather than relationships.



I see this when I go to public places, many people have their heads stuffed in the phone instead of talking with the people they have in front of them, even at the cinema, I see people playing their phone instead of watching the movie. I mean wtf.

heh.. I know a few like this.. good job I haven't a carry on phone,, lol

That was the one book by him that I couldn't get into.



I like most of his other work though.

It's funny that I find if I can't get into a book at first I will put it down and pick it up when my expectations change. It works for the most!!

Then she asked the class to "Snatch the pebble from her hand." hehe. I like that lesson.

lol :)

Hell yeah :)

Nice, that's awesome!

Truth.



I've even done it with major groups I've been a part of. Not because I had to, but I was getting to "emotional" over the discussion, people were making it personal *trolling*; and BAM. Blocked and it all went bye-bye... it's a beautiful thing.



Best line: I no longer feed the trolls.

It's pretty great, right? :D

I think it's great, besides 'Trekkie' is already in which is something else I'm pleased about :-p

I am a proud Whovian.

:(

Good night John Boy.

Yes- that looks like a good one.

Me too- on the list to watch. :D

Can we add people who go around having sex a lot without thinking before they do it in the same catagory?



Sex addicts and then people who use others for sex?

I'm not sure if having sex 'a lot' would qualify as it's not an addiction per se!

We'd have to identify a criteria first for what and why any addiction qualifies.

There is a sex addicts anonymous here in the states, I dated a woman, and I was her "Bottle in the closet."

I didn't think this was allowed.

They shouldn't be able to- *unless* they sign in from another IP for 30 days to clear the connection from their main accounts, then they can... and it has been done. Cancer even pointed it out in said person's honor log. It was a little while back. And even though we can see behind the scenes this person claims innocence... just like they do with all the other broken rules.

you can not give your self honor, you can not even give honor to some one who lives in your home.

the honor goes by ip.

Again, refer to what I said above- people do cheat. I would know.

I have seen people use secondary accounts (on other sites) to bully their own post, in search of consolation.

The meaning of desperate lol.